Gender, Jealousy and Reason
“Please think about a romantic relationship you have had in the past, currently have, or would like to have. Imagine that you discover that your romantic partner has become interested in someone else. What would upset you more?”
This research suggests that men are specially bothered by evidence of their parter’s sexual infidelity, whereas women are troubled more by the evidence of emotional infidelity. Read Article here: Gender, Jealousy and Reason
Población Extranjera empadronada en España
El total de residentes en España a 1 de enero de 2009 es de 46.661.950 habitantes, según el avance del Padrón municipal, lo que supone un aumento de 504.128 personas respecto a los datos de 1 de enero de 2008. De este total, 41.063.259 corresponden a personas de nacionalidad española y 5.598.691 son extranjeros (that´s me!), lo que representa el 12,0% del total de inscritos. Los ciudadanos de la UE-27 representan el 40,5% del total de ciudadanos extranjeros (that´s Fri!). A continuación el Cuadro Población extranjera por Países
Aunque en el cuadro no lo dice, al parecer habemos alrededor 600 ticos empadronados en Espana en este momento…
(Para acceder a los datos más actuales, ver el Instituto Nacional de Estadística)
How to Tell If Your Long Distance Relationship is at Risk
Lately, I have notice a lot of frustration and indifference from close friends that are going through a Long Distance Relationship. The distance is a significant factor, but also the lack of common goals or plans for the future. It is difficult to help them or to say if it is going to work or not, it depends on their effort and priorities in life. I found this interesting questionnaire that helps to determine how difficult an LDR could be and will help pinpoint areas within the person and within the relationship that may be particularly at risk from the separation.
Read it here: The Separation Inventory
2.05.09 | | Comments7 Tipps für Fernbeziehungspaare
Die Fernbeziehungen lassen sich überstehen – wenn man als Paar die richtigen Vehaltensstrategien anwendet. Das Workfamily Institut hat verschiedene Tipps zusammengetragen, die dabei helfen, die Distanz im Alltag zu überwinden.
Vollstandiger Artikel hier: 7 Tipps für Fernbeziehungspaare. Von: Joachim E. Lask & Bettina D. Weidenbach. WorkFamily-Institut
Neben dem Dokument, gibt es auch interessante Audiobeiträge zum Thema:
Chancen für die Liebe – Fernbeziehung, Training für die Liebe, Wie Fernbeziehungen glücken können
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): winter depression!
It is very hard for a tropical being to live in a country with winter. So if you feel weird during the winter season, don´t get too stressed, it will hopefully go away by the spring!!
Seasonal affective disorder (SAD), also known as winter depression or winter blues, is a mood disorder in which people who have normal mental health throughout most of the year experience depressive symptoms in the winter or, less frequently, in the summer, repeatedly, year after year. The US National Library of Medicine notes that “some people experience a serious mood change when the seasons change. They may sleep too much, have little energy, and crave sweets and starchy foods. They may also feel depressed. Though symptoms can be severe, they usually clear up.”
The condition in the summer is often referred to as Reverse Seasonal Affective Disorder, and can also include heightened anxiety.
There are many different treatments for classic (winter-based) seasonal affective disorder, including light therapies with bright lights, anti-depression medication, ionized-air administration, cognitive-behavioral therapy, and carefully timed supplementation of the hormone melatonin.
More info: What is SAD? and Symptoms and Treatment – SAD Association
24.04.09 | | CommentsInternet-Liebe: Zur technischen Mediatisierung intimer Kommunikation
“Was ist überhaupt unter Cyber-, Online-, Netz- oder Internet-Liebe zu vestehen und wie verbreitet ist das Phänomen? Wo findet das Kennenlernen statt? Nach welchen Kriterien erfolgt die Partnerwahl? Welche Beziehungsformen werden realisiert? Welche besonderen Chancen und Risiken sind mit intimer Netzkontakten verbunden? Anhand von authentischen Fallbeispielen und sozialwissenschaftlichen Studien geht der Beitrag diesen Fragen nach.”
PDF Dokument: Internet-Liebe: Zur technischen Mediatisierung intimer Kommunikation. Doring, Nicola (2003).
Feminist Views of Cybersex: Victimization, Liberation, and Empowerment
“Cybersex can be defined as a social interaction between at least two persons who are exchanging real time digital messages in order to become sexually aroused and satisfied. This article first describes video- and text-based cybersex as a new kind of sexual encounter with its own particularities. Then the feminist literature on cybersex is reviewed revealing two basic perspectives: The victimization perspective interprets cybersex as a heterosexist practice, and focuses on how women and girls as individuals and as a group are harmed by online-harassment, virtual rape and cyber-prostitution. The liberation perspective, in contrast, focuses on the options computer-mediated communication offers women and girls who actively seek sexual pleasure online. From that viewpoint, cybersex frees females to explore their sexualities more safely and to enjoy more sex, better sex and different sex”.
This article, from Nicola Döring , criticizes both the victimization and the liberation perspective and offers an integrative empowerment perspective that acknowledges power discourse as an essential sexual issue online and off.
Read the complete paper here: Döring, N. (2000). Feminist Views of Cybersex: Victimization, Liberation, and Empowerment. CyberPsychology and Behavior, 3 (5), 863-884.
And what about the Gay Long Distance Relationships? (GLDR)
We always talk about how difficult the LDRs are, but there are special kinds of LDR that make them even more complex. This is the case of the Gay Long Distance Relationships. I know many cases of GLDR, however there are not many articles in the web talking about that. In the following article Ivi writes about her experience of a bicultural 4-year long relationship at the distance with another woman. Read the complete article here: And what about the Gay Long Distance Relationships?
Sensation: a Presence Enabler for Long-Distance Relationships using Skype and Visual Presence Representation
“In this paper Eric Wahlforss and Alexander Ljung describe “Sensation”: “a system that enables two persons to establish a non-intrusive audiovisual link between one another, utilizing Skype for audio transmission and subtle pulsating lights for presence indication. Sensation is not a phone, not a conference system, and – most importantly – it is not about connecting just spaces. The Sensation is a presence enabler in longdistance relationships, connecting people who happen to live far apart. It is intended as a realistic near-future consumer product, as such affordable and easy to use”. Complete PDF and Foto here: Sensation: a Presence Enabler for Long-Distance Relationships using Skype and Visual Presence Representation
Reverse Culture Shock
Reverse Culture Shock is a term associated with the phenomenon of returning to one’s own country and culture. Very similar to culture shock, a person entering into their home environment will have to make adjustments to reacquaint themselves with their surroundings. Unlike culture shock, most do not anticipate feeling like a foreigner in their own home. However, it should be expected. If you have made any cultural adjustments while abroad, you will have to readjust once back home. Complete article here
Biculturalism unpacked: Components, individual differences, measurement, and outcomes
Are you bicultural? How could you mesure your “biculturality”? In this research, Veronica Benet-Martinez and Angela Nguyen introduce the concept of biculturalism and unpacks its components. They discuss ways of measuring biculturalism and explain new concepts, like BII or Bicultural Identity Integration. A magnific paperwork in the framework of the discussion about globalization, migration and integration.
Read PDF: Biculturalism Unpacked: Components, Measurement, Individual Differences, and
Outcomes. Nguyen, & Benet-Martínez. (2007). Social and Personality Psychology Compass.
How to End a Relationship
In some cases, there is a point when the relationship doesn´t work anymore and you both agree that the best would be to go separate ways and break up. When that happens, you could be feeling terrible for a long time. In her blog, Tina shows us ways to understand the situation and try to minimize pain for the other person and yourself. Check her blog and read her article here: How to End a Relationship .
Misunderstandings
Even if you know your partner´s culture “very well” there will always be misunderstandings that could lead to conflict. When there´s something that your cultural knowledge does´t really understand, our minds try to twist the incoming information to make it fit in our worldview. “Since different cultures have very different worldviews, cross-cultural communication is especially likely to change meaning between sender and receiver, as the sender may have a very different worldview from the receiver.” The following article explains about the source of misunderstandings and how to avoid them.
Misunderstandings. By Guy Burgess and Heidi Burgess. September 2003. Source: Beyond Intractability
An experimental study of bilingual couple´s communication
Language practices by bilingual couples has not been deeply investigated yet. Piller makes an excellent approach of the methods that could be use when researching on how bilingual couples communicate.
An experimental study of bilingual couple´s communication. Ingrid Piller. University of Hamburg(PDF, 1,94MB)
25.04.08 | biculturalism, binational families, communication, experiences, multicultural | CommentsBikulturelle Ehen - Ehen mit Zukunft
Jedes Paar hat seine eigene Konstellation, sagt J.Lang, aber “statistisch gesehen ist es sogar so, dass Beziehungen, wo der Mann Schweizer ist und die Frau Ausländerin, länger halten, als wenn zwei Schweizer verheiratet sind”.
Herr Lang ist Eheberater in der Schweiz und im “deutschprachigen Internet”. Er stellt in seinem Text eine andere Perspektive von multi- und bikulturellen Konflikten in Beziehungen dar: und zwar jene der Therapeuten, wenn multikulturelle Paare zu Ihnen zur Beratung kommen. Selbst wenn der Therapeut neutral bleiben will, spielen die für ihn selbstverständlichen Grundlage seiner eigenen Kultur eine wichtige Rolle.
Artikel lesen: Bikulturelle Ehen – Ehen mit Zukunft. By J. Lang. In: Psychoscope, Bern 2002 (PDF, 177KB) Eheberatung & Info – J.Lang: www.paarberatung.ch
7.04.08 | biculturalism, binational families, communication, conflict, family, multicultural, tips | Comments
